Heart checklist is a series of realizations and experiences I got from loving the people I love.
One thing about me, I love deeply. Deep like the ocean. I marvel at the depth of people that hide in the shadows. The unknown of your being that I have yet to discover, I treasure it already. Believe me. There are times that I’d be willing to do whatever I can to make someone smile. I want to be of help.
But recently, I’m beginning to learn that it won’t always be you. As much as you’re willing to offer an ear to listen, a shoulder to cry on, or a hand that can help, it won’t always be you.
Sometimes, people need to hear the right words from someone else. The help they need can only be satisfied by a more appropriate person.
And that’s okay! It doesn’t make you any less of a good friend. It doesn’t make you any less of a caring lover. Accepting the fact that you won’t always have the solution will humble you and widen your perspective.
I remember the thoughts that kept bothering me the night before I wrote this entry. I was worried for someone close to my heart. I’ve caught a glimpse of how life is for him lately. And when you care for someone like I care for this person, you’d wanna help them find the answers to their questions, the solution to their problem.
Thing is, I find it quite hard to do that because I didn’t experience the things he went through and is going through. And I’ve come to learn his habit of not immediately saying what’s wrong. These two factors leave me unsure of what approach to take that won’t invalidate what he feels. So, instead of pressuring and doing things my own usual way, I did what I know is best for both of us.
I prayed.
I asked God to send people who could help him get through his struggle. I prayed that He uses someone to send across the message he needs to hear. Whether that’d be me or somebody else didn’t matter anymore. As long as the movement comes from God, that’s the best that could happen.
The best way to help someone, when you have no idea how, is to pray for them.
And God never disappoints. I’m glad to see Him answer my prayer after hearing good news from the person I care about. He’ll be okay. God’s got him.
Now, I’m relieved. I’m happy to realize all these cause I know I’m gonna need it in the future. It’s true. We don’t always have the answer. Only God does.
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